The “Roaring 20’s” are here again and we are so excited to be headed into a new decade with a fresh beginning! The holidays have come and gone and it’s time to put the hectic family craziness behind you and get back to focusing on your wedding planning, or maybe the start of your planning for all of our holiday engagements out there! It’s important to take a step back and remember that there are certain factors every bride can improve on for their own wellbeing. We know it’s easy to get wrapped up into all of the excitement, but there is always a way to have a more seamless and less stressful planning experience. We are here to tell you our six New Years resolutions for brides and grooms in hopes of helping you let go, enjoy and be present during your engagement and wedding planning experience! This is not going to be a typical list of resolutions like getting into shape or starting a to do list (which are also important). Rather we’re digging deeper into the mind of the engaged bride as we know exactly what you’re stressing about and how we can help you enjoy this moment more. Take a look!
Reduce Stress & Have Fun
The first resolution is to reduce stress and have more fun. The moment you get engaged the first thing people ask you right away is when’s the wedding? Just breath! Tell them to slow it down a little bit as being a new fiancé is one of the most exciting times in your next chapter. We say have fun enjoy being engaged and take some time to relax before starting the planning process. There’s no harm in keeping your initial ideas between you and your fiancé before telling the whole world. Maybe you have a plan and maybe you don’t, but it’s most important to remember that once you do start planning your wedding that you should do whatever makes you happy. Everything always gets done and always will. So it’s time to let go of stress, enjoy the moment and appreciate being in love with your special someone to be!
Rafal Ostrowski Photography | Showplace Floral
Rafal Ostrowski Photography | Showplace Floral
Rafal Ostrowski Photography | Showplace Floral
Don’t Compare Wedding Budgets
The next resolution we have is to please not compare wedding budgets. We know you’re at that time in life when all of your friends are getting married and to be honest everyone is in a different place and that’s OK! It’s ok to realize that different couples have different wedding budgets and expectations and you don’t need to compare yourself to anyone. What you have in your heart about your perfect wedding maybe different from others, so don’t feel because your best friend has 500 guests that you need to compete with them. Everyone’s budgets and expectations are different and we just want you to remember that your wedding is tailored toward you. Don’t become a comparing bridezilla…that’s not a good look on you. Don’t compare to other couples because you preferences make your perfect day perfect for you. Don’t forget that!
EXO Photography | Showplace Floral
Tom Schelling Photography | Showplace Floral
Take Control of Your Guests List
One of the most dreaded parts about wedding planning as I think most of us can agree on is the guest list. The guest list is that last-minute task that you have to complete and are pretending it doesn’t exists (because let’s be honest we put it off until the very last minute). Who is invited, who will be offended if they’re not invited, we haven’t seen these people in 10 years should we still invite them, what coworkers do I think would want to come? These are all of the questions that run through our heads and give us sleepless nights. We know it as well as you do that weddings are not only expensive, but they also have different vibes. Some people want a grand wedding with 250 people while others may want an intimate ceremony with 50 guests. The point of this resolution is to not be passive when creating your guest list. Invite who you want. Although it may sound harsh, everyone who didn’t make the cut will understand why they may not have been invited. Your guess are the people who you want to see you get married, who you want to celebrate with and who you can’t imagine your life without. Most importantly, don’t feel guilty about the decision you made. Have fun and enjoy the guests that are come to celebrate your big day!
Angel Project | Showplace Floral
Amy Rizzuto Photography | Showplace Floral
Ignore Outside Influences
The next resolution we think a lot of people can really get on board with is don’t let others influence your wedding vision and ideas. From the day you were a little kid maybe you dreamed of the perfect wedding, made vision boards and have notebooks full of ideas. Maybe you’re the kind of person that is now engaged and you’re just starting to get your brain twirling with potential possibilities are. Either way, what is most important is that you don’t let other others influence your ideas and your vision. People often get opinionated when it comes to planning an event especially people who are close to you like family and friends. As we know it’s all coming from the heart sometimes the extra commentary is not needed and does more damage than it does good. It’s ok to tell people that you appreciate having their suggestions, but at the end of the day you get to make the final decision and they cant take that personally. This is the one day that is strictly about you and your loved one and it’s ok to be selfish in that aspect.
Angel Project | Showplace Floral
EXO Photography | Showplace Floral
Don’t Feel Guilty
The next thing that we know kind of goes along with the resolution before this about not letting others influence you but this one’s a little deeper than that. This resolution talks about not letting others make you feel guilty about your decisions made for your wedding. I know a lot of us can be nervous and insecure about decisions we might make whether it’s the venue choice, the flower colors, the dress we pick or the theme. We tend to wait for other people to give us their opinion before we make that final decision. Yet, the point of this is to not feel guilty for choosing something different then for example your mother or sister would have chosen for you! It’s the people closest to us that make it hard for us to make our own decisive decisions, but this is your day and you should choose whatever makes you happy. In the long run they want the same happiness for you on your wedding day, and we don’t want you to feel guilty for your decisions made!
Amy Rizzuto Photography | Showplace Floral
Amy Rizzuto Photography | Showplace Floral
Enjoy Your Wedding Day!
The last resolution is one we want to mention and that is probably not talked about enough. In our opinion, it is most important that no matter what the planning process was and no matter how you got there, you deserve to enjoy your wedding day! As you are about to walk down the aisle, let it all go! All your hard work, stressful planning and long days of preparing and anticipation is finally here and there is nothing more you can do then be with your loved one, laugh, cry, dance and have the time of your life. So many couples are so involved in wedding planning that they forget to be present during their wedding day and enjoy it for what it is. You’ve done all that you can and now it’s time to let loose and dance the night away. This day comes once in a lifetime and as many say goes quicker than a blink of an eye. So take in every minute and spend every moment with your new Mr. or Mrs. and have the time of your life!
Angel Project | Showplace Floral
Boris Zaretsky Photo | Showplace Floral
2020 we are so happy to see you and excited to see what you have in store for us! Cheers to 2020!
